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Notes on dirty talk

By Serge Kreutz (2003)

While many of my articles on sexual function evaluate how the male sexual response can by influenced by chemical agents, it is obvious that chemical agents are not the only possible method. Actually, a much more traditional way of influencing the sexual response of men as well as women is through sexual language or depictions of sexual acts.

There can be no doubt that among all organs involved in the sexual response, the brain reigns supreme. Words or pictures, or thoughts (which are mostly formulated as words or imagined as pictures), can be very powerful in initializing a string of sexual reactions. They can cause a mental fixation on sexual acts strong enough to have a philosophical dimension (it's the only time when we can, with good reason, forget that it's not worth to be alive).

This doesn't contradict the assumption that all bodily functions, including those of the brain, are first of all biochemical processes. It's just an example that biochemical processes of the brain can be triggered by other methods than chemical agents: the senses, memory, and even abstract reasoning.

While words and pictures of sexual content cause sexual responses, it is possible to modulate the susceptibility for words and pictures with medications that suppress the hormone prolactin (such as Dostinex), or herbals that work in a similar direction, such as tongkat ali for men, or kcal fattier for women. High prolactin levels are associated with motherly attitudes and a lack of sexual appetite. (Please see the "sexual function" member sections on www.asiatour.com for detailed information on how to lower prolactin levels for sexual enhancement.

Healthy people other than breast-feeding mothers usually don't have to worry about their prolactin levels. Nevertheless Dostinex is now bought by an increasing number of people not for the treatment of Parkinson's but for its prolactin-suppressing and sexuality-enhancing properties.

The downside of both Dostinex and tongkat ali (if a genuine product is selected) is that both of these materials are rather expensive (though members of the sexual function package on www.asiatour.com have access to information on how to purchase Dostinex for a fraction of the official US price).

While Dostinex will, to a certain extent, work in focusing the mind on sexual thoughts and acts, I consider it amateurish to disregard the power of words as an agent for sexual enhancement (and I don't think I am saying this because as a writer, I'd like to stick to the tools of my trade).

I'm a man. But my observation indicates that women more than men are open to the power of words when it comes to sexual enhancement. Tell your current girlfriend some details of your sex life with the previous one, and chances are this will work better than mixing some kacip fatima into the orange juice you serve.

Lacing someone's drink is a criminal act, even if it happens with good intentions (after all, she's your girlfriend, and you'd just like her to reach an orgasm when she normally doesn't), and even if it happens with a relatively harmless substance such as kacip fatima.

Talk is cheap. Not only because kacip fatima costs money but also because no jury will convict you of date rape because you got her into the mood by talking about how it was with the previous one.

If you're with your wife, and if the relationship lacks zest, try something more explicit. Talk about what you dreamed last night (you can make that up in any way you think may work). And if you're not good in making up stories, get help from such works of "science" that have been written about the sexual fantasies of women. Or, for some heavier artillery, read de Sade's Justine.

Most women, even those who are good mothers and housewives, are amazingly susceptible to fantasies such as being the only female among ten or twenty men on a Robinson island. We don't have to go into details here.

Women read far more fiction than men do, and spinning stories into which women can channel their sexual fantasies makes for a whole genre of literature.

Mind you, to indulge in some fantasies doesn't mean that there is a serious desire to turn them into reality. Most women who can be aroused by stories about them being served by a group of men would balk at a proposal to have such a setting actually implemented. They WILL refuse even if they may have whispered "I want" when such a setting was verbally fantasized about while enjoying sexual intercourse (with just one man, that is). It's not only that women may be better capable to differentiate between fantasies and reality.

It's also understandable that in an undisturbed situation (when being together with just one man), a woman may, in her fantasies, be open for the thrill of the idea of being served by several men, while avoiding the complications that such an endeavor would result in when tried in real life. (amo)

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